Have you ever thought about how the words we use to our self can really set us on a negative path? We all have such harsh words we use that we would NEVER say to anyone else. How would your life be if you changed those words to positive ones? Let’s take this even further and explore how much negative messages do we exposure ourselves to?
Recently I was on a fabulous professional retreat in which my cell phone did not receive a signal. I was far removed from modern technology. The first couple of nights, out of habit, I came into my room and looked to turn on the television (that was not there.) I kept glancing at my phone for a signal or trying to check emails. After I got over the initial anxiety, of no phone signal reaching me, no emails easily accessible, no television, and no news reaching me as I used to experience, I really enjoyed the freedom and peace of not being tethered to technology.
Every now and then a cell signal reached my phone and a message/text/headline would pop up on my screen. These were “breaking messages” that quite frankly, took me out of my wonderful, peaceful and experiencing the moment state of being. Gut wrenching, “news breaking” tragedies that I could do nothing about at the time and only took my positive emotional state down a few notches.
A few realizations came to me last week that I am confessing and changing in my life.
I watched too much news. Talk about negative stuff being in your face all the time!
I was too tethered to my phone. Needing to connect to a phone, to see messages and “what is happening” took me away from those in front of me and nurturing activities I enjoy. To be more present allows time to work on creating and developing more meaningful relationships, time for reading, writing and soul filling activities.
I have done great work personally and with clients on flipping the negative messages often internalized and repeated about food, weight and bodies. I speak professionally about the language professionals use and why careful, positive and meaningful wording is important and key for change. Blame and shame are not motivators for change and health. I have also heard many times how the news messages can really impact a person’s well-being, yet was not ready to see how the news and my phone impacted my life and emotional state.
Beauty in the Mindful Observation & Collection of Flowers
Taking time to walk in nature, barefoot in the grass, and appreciate all the beauty around me provided evolution moments last week. Experiencing body and soul uplifting thoughts and appreciation, filled my heart with self-care and a new perspective. We can go around thinking about the “weeds” that are out there, the negative messages that creep into our minds, by our inner critic, news feeds or those focused on doom and gloom or we can choose a different path.
I choose to look at the positive, soul filling opportunities to nurture, such as the morning I walked barefoot in the grass and collected beautiful flowers into a bouquet. Self-care is important and impacts multiple areas in our lives: relationships, joyful movement and mindful approaches of nurturing and fueling our body, mind and soul.
Here are a few self-care activities I have changed and/or are putting an increased focus on:
- Remove the alerts to “see” news by taking the notifications off my screen on my phone.
- Stop watching the news. I used to tell myself I needed to see it to see the weather (hey, they have apps for that now.)
- Limit my phone time.
- Observe my inner critic self-talk and re-frame. Dr. Anita Johnson gave me a nice re-frame message that can flip the fear messages “And that’s a story that doesn’t need to happen.”
Additional positive messages/statements/affirmations I have found helpful:
- Progress, not perfection is my goal.
- Perfection only exists in God.
- Fill your cup, so you have something left to give others.
What are some of your self-care activities or positive messages?